Why Romance?

Maybe you are wondering why she needs this "romance stuff." Why the heck does she care about flowers and notes? I'm so glad you asked, because I would love to give you 10 reasons why the love of your life needs to know how much you love her. :)

1. She is a precious gift. Don't take advantage of the gift of her love. Find out how she best receives love (5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman would be a great place to start) and then love the heck out of her!

2. If you don't show her love, she can easily find it somewhere else. Don't miss out on the opportunity to be the love of her life. I'm not even talking about other men. Ignore her enough and you'll find she will develop a life outside of her life with you. Maybe a hobby that takes her away every evening or a second job just to get out of the house around people that seem to care about her. Don't get so lost in yourself that you forget that she needs to see and feel your love! Don't force her to look elsewhere!

3. Some inconsiderate guy out there is probably flirting with her. Don't let someone else flirt with your girl more than you do.There is a gentleman I see every day at work. He delivers packages to my office. He outright flirts with me. He's married. He knows I'm happily married, yet everyone in my office teases about how he flirts. I'm going to be honest. It's nice to feel like someone is into you. I'm not the tiniest bit into this 40 year old man, but I also don't entertain his flirting by flirting back. In fact, one time my husband was with me when I saw him and I said (jokingly), "My husband's gonna beat you up for flirting with me every day." They were both shocked because neither knew it was coming. I got a good laugh. My point is, I refuse to allow a relationship with another guy at work or in life to become too cozy. I try to be smart in this area, but I also know that if your girl isn't getting love at home (And I'm NOT talking about sex here. There's way more to love than sex to a girl.), it's going to make the coworker, or guy she sees every day at the coffee shop, a lot more appealing. Don't let her receive more attention from someone else!

4. She cares for your home and for you. This may not be the case in every single home, but if your wife is the sole housekeeper, show her you appreciate that. The worse feeling ever is when you work hard all day cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, etc., and you fall into bed exhausted, then your man slides into bed and says "Let's do it." Ya right. Not only does she feel exhausted, but she probably feels like her only value is what you get from her. What you just said was "you're here to take care of the house and kids and me, and be on call when I want to have sex." I'm sure you didn't mean that. But there's nothing sexier than a back massage while you're thanking her for a delicious dinner and telling her how much you appreciate all she does. Even if she was exhausted, I bet she'll find just a bit more energy. (wink wink)

5. She is often sacrificing her desires to put yours first. As women we want to please our man. If you stop and watch, you will probably see that she often goes without her choice to please you or the kids. She eats a cold meal because the kids all needed their food cut up while you scarf down a warm plate, she takes a cold shower because you and everyone else went first, she makes your favorite meal even though she doesn't really like it...I'm not trying to make her out to be a martyr, but just remember that she sacrifices a lot for you, why not try to give back a bit? It will be so appreciated and the benefits for you will be amazing as well!

6. Every girl dreams of being the envy of all the other girls because her prince treats her so well. Let's be honest. We all wants our friends to think we have the most romantic guy in the world. Is it right? Not sure, haha, but it's reality. Show her that you aren't afraid to love her outside of your home. Give her something to brag about to the girls! It is a double blessing because you'll feel great as well knowing you have put a smile on her face as she talks about "the most incredibly amazing date night ever..."

7. Romancing your girl will lead to some amazing sexy time! Maybe I should have included this one farther up the list, right? haha There's nothing that makes me more into my hubby then when he is being romantic. Not only do I enjoy being romanced, but it shows me that he loves me enough to slow down and think about me, not just rush in with his own desires in mind.Romance is a magical entryway that leads straight to the good stuff!

8. We are not promised another day after today. Live today to the fullest and show her how much you love her before it is too late. Focus on the precious moments you have today. Always say "I love you" and never leave each other angry. It could be the last time you say goodbye to her. Don't put yourself in a position to live with that kind of regret.

9. She deserves to feel loved by her prince charming. In my situation I was Daddy's little (only) girl. That created some expectations on being very loved and cherished by the man in my life. I expected that feeling of unconditional love, plus all the mushy stuff, with my husband. As a little girl growing up, all you can imagine about your future husband is through the eyes of Cinderella. You want to be adored and sought after the way the prince sought after the owner of the glass slipper.

10. She has been lied to for years by watching "chick flicks." Guys, I have to give you a big "I'M SORRY" on this one. I had no idea that the last 15 years of my movie watching life were a bunch of unrealistic garbage. I truly did think our first kiss would summon a string quartet, happen on a roof under a full moon, and fireworks would go off. Nothing spectacular happened. haha Hollywood and Hallmark have built up this perfect, thoughtful, romantic guy that does all the right things, and the best part is EVERY girl gets one! They have really hurt your image, guys, and I'm sorry. I do understand how hard--impossible--it is to live up to these crazy expectations we have as romance-loving girls! But we love you all the more for trying!

Are you ready to join the adventure?